I seem to have put myself under fire here on the DADT issue so I think I had best clarify my position. Anyone who knows me well knows that I could care less whether anyone is gay or not. I judge people by how they treat me not by their creed, color or orientation. I have a lot of gay friends in a city where being openly gay isn't accepted well and I have been criticized for that, too. One of my friends is a minister who performed gay weddings and was thrown out of his church when he 'came out' in his fifties -- so much for Christian tolerance.
I would like nothing better than for gays to serve openly in our military if they wish. However, we, as a society, have obviously not evolved sufficiently to accept that as witness the popularity of the Fox News talking heads and Sarah Palin's blatherings.
That said, I support DADT because it is beats the hell out of the alternative. I believe that gays can and should serve in our military if they so desire.
I believe a time will come when it is possible for openess but I don't see it happening at this point in time. I am old enough and jaded enough to settle for what is practical when the ideal isn't available.
I hope this clarifies things.