Monday, January 14, 2008

Yikes!!!!!! Tagged with a Meme!!!!

I got tagged with this thought-provoking meme by Xtreme English and it took me a lot of time to decide which five things were paramount. The thirty-five years that have passed since I was that young thang haven't been easy. It was a painful experience for me because I couldn't find a single truly positive thing. Oh well -- I guess I needed a good cry. And the bottom line is all about survival anyway and I've gotten pretty good at that.

Name five things in your life now that you never dreamed would be in your future when you were 25 years old.

1. When I was twenty-five, I didn't realize that marrying my now ex-husband would be the biggest mistake of my life. I think I knew I was meant to walk through this life alone but that challenge frightened me.

2. When I was twenty-five, I never dreamed that a catastrophic illness would damn near kill me and slow me down for the rest of my life. (The details on this will be forthcoming -- it's too long a story for this.) Suffice it to say, for now, that I weathered it well.

3. When I was twenty-five, I had no idea that I would ever be be homeless and need public assistance. (Another 'nother blog) Another thing that I yanked myself through somehow.

4. When I was twenty-five, I didn't understand the joys of frugality -- now it's my favorite sport.

5. When I was twenty-five, I didn't know how much strength and, what some of my friends call courage, I have.

The good news about all of this is that I can laugh about most of it!

I'm tagging: Marty at Traveling Oma, Joared at Along the Way, Claudia at Fried Okra Productions, Joy at Joy of Six and Amy at An Authentic Life.

Y'all let me know when you post yours.

Happy Blogging!!!!!!!!!!!



  1. I just read this same meme at Judy's site; it's a good one. It does sound like you have a lot of posts coming up given some of the disclosures you've made about what you didn't know. It sure as heck sounds like you pulled yourself up by the bootstraps; the school of hard knocks can be a powerful transformer, too.

  2. Kay, yes they are all negative things - but you know - they have made you what you are today, so it was imperative that you go through them. Well, maybe not imperative, but necessary, anyway.....LOL. Good answers.

  3. Fran & Judy: Socrates said, "An unexamined life is not worth living." and believe me, my life has not gone without examination. Someone else wiser than I said, "What doesn't kill me makes me stronger." and to a degree that's true for me. Sometimes when I start a meltdown, I have to remind myself that I can and have gotten through worse things.

  4. Kay...This is really quite wonderful and by doing this you have shared much of yourself that I did not know, but which I hope you WILL write more about...! I so agree with Socrates...And the Unknown person, too...!
    It sounds like you have a lot to share, if you feel you want to. I hope you do....I for one, look forward to this sharing and encourage you with all my heart.
    I feel like I just had a little taste of what's to come, and it has whet my appitite for the whole meal! (lol)

  5. thanks for showing us what courage, resilience, and strength of character look like. and when people say you have a "saving sense of humor," we know some of what the humor is saving you from.

    these qualities are admirable from the outside, but on the inside--in the good old dark night of the soul whence they arise--they look and feel like something we'd all just as soon do without.

    there's a line from a poem by Gerard Manley Hopkins that goes something like "o the mind, mind has mountains, cliffs of fall frightful, no man fathom'd. hold cheap may, who ne'er hung there...."

    hats off, kiddo. And thanks again. this meme is powerful, non?

  6. Gee ... thanks, Kay! Okay, I'll sit down and write my list this evening. Stay tuned ...

    Thank you for sharing a part of your life. I look forward to reading more!

  7. Well, thanks, Amy, M.E., and Naomi! It was hard to write and while I've known I need to write about it, I have avoided it because it's gut-wrenching and while I don't mind kvetching, I do hate to whine.

  8. looks like you are a good example of "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" -- I thought about what my list would be, and I have to say I admire your courage to put your list out there -- I would never do that with some of mine!

  9. Wow. I feel totally shallow compared to you. You've had some character building experiences, and you've come through with character. (And here I just thought you WERE a character!) I'll start thinking about this. Thanks for the tag.

  10. Oh hell, Bev!!! Just think of Judy's blog & imagine what I'm leaving out. We all have horrors in life.

    Marty: I could use some shallow in my life. Let me know when you post.

  11. In the meme time, I'll write my list. Sorry, Kay, you bring out my punny side :) A little late getting to this, but you've inspired me to do some authentic examining. Thanks for sharing!

  12. Anonymous12:01 PM

    Very well done, Kay.
    I've always believed the saying, "What doesn't kill you...makes you stronger."
    And you may have read my "Where I Am From" on my blog....the older I get, the more I realize it isn't about "where" we've been, but more important is "where we're headed."
    Best to you,

  13. You are one touch cookie Kay...and that makes you pretty special in my eyes.

    I'm not crazy about memes to be honest; but I'll try to do this one sometime soon. Thanks sweetie...


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